Fighting Fair

When it comes to keeping a relationship healthy and happy, how you argue is as important as what you argue about..

*Fight for the right reasons..Go into it because you want to fix the problem and never because you want to get even..

Stick to the present..Keep your arguments relevant to the current problem..Bringing up old "sins" will only cloud the issue and make things worse...

Be civil..There's never an excuse for name-calling, violence, or any kind of abuse.Respect and control are key..

Take your share of responsibility..Listen to and apologize for any mistakes on your part that other person may point out, and be ready to accept his/her apology as well..

Keep it private..There's nothing less classy or less productive than bickering in public, whether it's a shouting match inside your house or a status message war on Facebook..Contain yourself until you can talk privately..

Compromise..Don't expect to get your way entirely..It's not about who "wins" or "loses"..The victory is when you come out of your argument with a deeper bond than before...:)

Fight to the FINISH

Here's a riddle for you: What's one thing you hate doing, yet can't help but do?..The answer: FIGHT!...No matter how much you love a person, sometimes he/she just makes you wnat to scream...But just because you argue with someone doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful relationship with him or her..Fights are a way of expressing frustration and insecurity, and when handled properly they can help a relationship grow deeper..Here are a few familiar tales on fighting plus tips to keep them under control...

A Tale of Two Sister

 You share everything including parents, but the rule with borrowing stuff has always been to ask permission first..Now little sis has admitted not only to taking your favorite skirt without consent, but also to spillinh soda on it--and you're too furious to listen to her apologies..

One thing you should remember about family is that unlike friends, you're stuck with them forever--for better or for worse..Give yourself time to cool down, then hear her out..Make it clear that what she did is not okay by reversing the situation: how would she feel if you did the same to her stuff?..You'll both be better off treating the experience as a lesson in forgiveness and respect..

The Protective Parent Trap



They refuse to let you go out, and when they do, you have to be home before midnight..Any argument is met with disapproval or the old defense, " Will Mom and Dad ever see reason outside of open rebellion?

Before you gear up for war, consider your options: either you go rogue and be punished further when you get caught, or you toil your way to a promotion..Be smart about this! Stomping off in a huff will only convince them that you're not mature enough to do things on your own..But being home on time, getting good grades, and generally following their rules will learn their trust and get that curfew lifted without any bloodshed...

The Time Conundrum

Now that You're officially a couple, its like your boyfriend has decided he can pretty much ignore you..Every time you want to spend time with him, He's got basketball, video games, or other plans with his friends..You've argued about it so often that your good intentions have backfired--he's beginning to think you're a nag..

With guy's, its always best to act before you speak..Rather than treating his buddies as the enemy, cheer for them at pick-up games, give Call of Duty:Modern Warfare a go, and just befriend them..Convince your guy that he doesn't have to choose between you and his friends; in fact, you're cool enough to be part of the group..He'll want you all to himself once he sees his friends are all in love wiht you....

" HOME "

For the past 3 years I have plenty of things to be thankful aside from being grateful that I am still alive and enjoying everything life's to offer..However, i felt very alone with my thought of missing my hometown especially my parents..Its been more than 3 years since i left my hometown in Iloilo...If my memory serves me correctly, the last time I was home was december 2008..

One of my friend shared this photo of my hometown..This picture   (a peaceful place ) brought back a lovely childhood memory to me when i saw it...

 "There’s no place like home." Where were grew up will always be a part of us and will always give that nostalgic feeling....

To my lovely Parents, whom i missed so much.... You were the first people (in the world!) to love me----even before i was born..You've taken care of me, seen me grow up, and been there for me no matter how many fights, arguments, and silly debates you've had with me...

Mom and Dad.."I Love You"...

Sometimes, its ironic that the people you love are the hardest to actually say these three words to...But people, get a load off your chest and let your parents know that you actually care..You dont need a major moment to say it---you could casually drop the line after a short phone call with them, say it after hearing mass, or tell them on their birthdays..It doesn't really matter what the occasion is---Your saying "I Love You" will deifnitely make their day, no matter what the circumstances are

To my peaceful Hometown (Iloilo), Thinking back of my childhood makes me miss you. A place like you, where everyone knows  is far different from where I am residing now. There with you, I was living in a small hut made of bamboo and nipa. Life was so simple yet fulfilling. Everyone in the neighborhood is so accommodating and willing to lend a helping hand.

I miss your green rice fields where I used to play tag and catch dragonflies. The same rice fields where I looked for edible snails during rainy season that Mom used to cooked with taro leaves and coconut milk. I miss your river where I go fishing and Mom washed our blankets sometimes.

I miss my cousins and old friends who were walking with me on our way to school everyday. With our old rubber slippers we go through one kilometer road, unmindful of the scorching heat or heavy rains because on the roadside there were our favorite tamarind and jocote tree where we hide from the boys and eat the fruits.

It’s been more than three years since I last visited you and I miss so much everything about you. I hope someday, I can buy a small piece of your land and build that same old nipa hut where I can spend the last days of my life with my future family and old friends. When that time comes, I want you to welcome me with the smell of dry leaves, cold breeze, peace and tranquility…just like the old times.

I grew up in Barotac Viejo, a small town in Iloilo, the home of famous "Dinagyang Festival"---is a religious and cultural festival in Iloilo City, Philippines held on the fourth Sunday of January..It is held both to honor the Santo Niño and to celebrate the arrival on Panay of Malay settlers and the subsequent selling of the island to them by the Atis.

My hometown is just beautiful....!!!!..."There’s no place like home indeed."

Singleness

Singleness is not a disease, it is not a form of punishment from an angry God...It is not a purgative stage either...First, be thankful for your singleness...

Single life has many advantages!!...Single people are free to do many things that married people cannot...They are free to give anything, to serve anytime, to go anywhere, to spend their money for a good cause without worrying about anybody else..These are some of the freedom and advantages of being single..

Of course, it is great to be married..When you come home, your wife/husband is there to welcome you..Understands and comfort when you need it..Joy of children..And there is the sexual intimacy that married people can experience..Nevertheless, the advantages of the married life do not cancel out the advantages of the single life..If God calls you to a particular state of life, whether for the time being, or for the rest of your life, rejoice in where God has called you to be, for that is the best place to be!!...

It is common among single people to feel sorry for themselves..But single people should take on a new way of thinking..Be thankful....Congratulate yourself that you have persevered and preserved yourself..You may be tempted to view not being in a romantic relationship as a disadvantage,. But it may also tell of something good..At least you are not in a relationship just for the sake of loneliness, the feeling of togetherness or the desire for companionship..Getting into a relationship is about more than these...It is about a union of heart, mind and spirit: oneness is the ideal for any relationship..If we get into a relationship for the wrong reasons, we will only end up suffering the ill effects..It will feel like a burdensome yoke rather than a blessing..

Thank God for where you are now.!!..Submit to God's perfect timing bacause He loves you and knows what He's doing in your life....

A Day i'll Never Forget

After a few days of being absent in the blogging world doesn't mean i've abandoned my writing..I've been very busy and lot of things happened to me this past few days. I’ve been fulfilled, happy and been hurt..

Although of busy schedule, and my sincere apologies for posting it just now, A Day i'll never forget, It’s not something one easily forgets, nor should forget, especially when whole country celebrating this one special day for our beloved and dedicated Teachers who play a pivotal role in our life starting from childhood to adulthood..Thank you for being my friend, a guide, and a mentor..

Last october 5, as we celebrate the World Teachers Day, is a facts reminder to everyone that we must understand the importance of teachers in our life, love and respect them..With the dawn of the internet age, student think that they get all the information from internet while they ignore the fact that such information may be incorrect or misleading. With this abundant information they think that teachers are not required anymore. But they do not realize that a teacher is not only a person who gives information but also is a mentor and a counsellor to us.

BUT, this day is also a facts reminder to all the Teachers that you must also understand the purity in your profession...
Teacher should not treat their teaching service just as any another job. Teaching subjects alone would not be the duty of a teacher. In today's world Information can be obtained easily by anybody; most of the information is available in internet. It is imperative that teachers should be up to date with knowledge and information. However you should be wise enough to deal with today's generation.You should understand their needs, make the students realize the importance of teachers; be their friend and a mentor. The children today face different problems personally, psychologically and physically. Being rational, straightforward, firm and kind would help gain their trust. Blind obedience is impossible nowadays and teachers should refrain from expecting the same from students. Teachers should also be aware of the mental health problems in children . You should also be aware of child abuse. You need to identify, help and understand the children regarding these problems. Their role has increased manifold with current generation. It is ur duty to increase their importance and appreciate them.In today's scenario with both parents working, the students mostly spend maximum time with their teachers. Therefore it becomes the responsibility of teachers to instill good moral values in students from their childhood.

Many studies indicate that the student teacher relationship is declining . Before, when education was considered as sacred and not as a business, students as well as parents had immense faith and respect for teachers. But now this has gravely reduced. It is because today's students view teaching as a job for which they pay in the form of fees. Education has become a medium for securing good jobs but not knowledge or well being of an individual. Being in a business world where money plays very important role today's students do not understand the sanctity of teaching profession...

Teaching is a vocation rather than a profession..They dedicated their lifes to make us well equipped to face the life with courage, shape our aims, dreams and goals..They act as the guide for life, show the path towards success and enrich the personality of their disciples by imparting ethical and academic knowledge. They bring out the untamed talents of their students and sharpen it in order to bring out the best results..They are considered as our ladders who help us to climb great heights..However they remain as ladders till the last.

NOW, on World Teachers Day, let us remember our teachers ,appreciate their work.Let teachers realize the importance and sanctity of their service. As we go into future let us not forget the basics of life such as morality, wisdom, knowledge, humility and goodness. It is the duty of the teachers to instill all these traits in coming generations. Most importantly parents need to help their children to understand the importance of teachers in their life with some real life examples of their own .Only when students have a great respect and regard for teachers, they can accept advice and discipline from them. Let each and every one of us remember to respect and appreciate teachers on this Teachers Day.

My heartfelt gratitude to all my teachers in "Saint Geronimo Elementary School", "Btac. Viejo National High School", and "Western Institute of Technology- Computer Engineering Dept." and "Philippines Women University" for guiding me, being my mentor, sharpen my knowledge, especially for bringing out the BEST n me...

"The best teachers teach from the heart, not from the book."

 "Happy World Teachers Day"

Typhoon Aftermath

( A week of Disaster ) 

　

PHILIPPINES – Back-to-back typhoons left at least 55 people dead , 31 others were missing and and thousands made homeless after two Typhoons hit the philippines in a week..

A typhoon named Nalgae slammed ashore in northeastern province of philippines last Saturday, left at least three people dead..Nalgae made landfall in the eastern province of Isabela last Saturday. At its strongest it was packing winds of up to 195km/h (121mph)...

Filipino villagers wade in floodwaters as typhoon Nalgae heavy downpour in flooded northern part of Philippines ..

 Thousands were reportedly trapped on the roofs of their homes as Nalgae barrelled across the island.

While..deadly Typhoon Pedring (international code name Nesat)  killed 52 people, thousands made homeless and 31 other missing in the same region ..Typhoon Nesat/Pedring, which struck five days earlier Typhoon Nalgae blew out of the Philippines..

Pedring, which had a diameter of 650km (400 miles) and carried gusts of up to 170km/h (105 mph), made landfall just before dawn...

 The waters of Manila Bay overflowed onto Roxas Boulevard, flooding streets and parks,

Large portions of the capital Manila, a city of 13 million, were without power ,Government offices, and schools were also closed ..the storm signal intensified... Stronger wind struck the land.. Greater rain falls flooded majority of the area in Metro Manila..

The worst things: no electricity (full blackout), no telephone line, no MRT/LRT operation, flooded areas, and shocking wind blows...

Cargo ship washed ashore at the sea port, north of  Manila

 Sofitel hotel in the area was partly flooded, with buses brought in to move guests..

Typhoon Pedring/Nesat is the second big typhoon to devastate the region north of Manila last Monday, September 26, 2011 seemed like another "Ondoy" a very strong typhoon which hit the country two years ago.. And did you know that the date September 26 when Pedring strike is actually the very same date that Ondoy hit...Yes, it was September 26, 2009 when Ondoy devastated the country! Now exactly two years ago, here comes Pedring!!!

I know the experience of struggling in the typhoon..I was also one of the victim..I can never forget the day when Tropical Storm Ondoy came destructive on my way home.I will put this one of my memorable memories of getting stranded on my way home while the tides have risen on the road ahead. The date was September 26, 2009  it was exactly 3:00pm in the afternoon when our VP decided let us go home earlier than the usual 5:00 PM schedule ..

I need to hike for a jeepney ride to the tricycle station that brings me home whenever I go home late. Then  bad news came, they said that there are no jeepneys traveling to that route at this time because  the water is way to high..Thank god there was a bus that bound to mall and decided to drop there and see if the water is lower. I was thinking I have a photographic memory when I arrived near the mall it was a nightmare the water was 2 feet deep when I got off the bus. I took my shoes off put my cellphone in my bag and I walk barefoot to higher grounds at the mall...

I stayed at the vicinity of the mall waiting for the water to recede. I wanted to go home so badly because I have a slight fever and wanted to rest..So, i decided to to walk on a full flooded road..I was a bit hesitant because I walk on the same spot wherein a man got electrocuted and died. So on my way home each step badly hurts my foot because I was walking barefoot and there are sharp rocks along the way.

Then came the heavy rain, I was holding my umbrella as I walk and holding by things up high to keep it way from the touching the murky waters... At last I saw the entrance to my apartment and hurriedly way towards the entrance, but the worst thing is, i have to walk up from lobby to 15TH floor since no elevator because of brownout/no electricity.., was running up to the stairs ,freezing cold, saw my unit and hurriedly open the door ,get inside and took a shower. The water that covered my path on my way up to 15th floor  smells bad, it was filthy but thank god I got home safe.. Just like usual, every typhoon will bring its mad and bad memories..

Philippine President Benigno Aquino III ,says, "it's a fact of life" that the country is visited by 23 typhoons every year on average.
He's confident that disaster management authorities in his country are adequately responding to flooding from a typhoon that has submerged entire sections of metropolitan Manila.

Now all things return to normal! We are still thankful that Nalgae and Pedring(nesat) didn't hit us as strong as Ondoy did! All of us were safe and sound! Atleast!!!

"During the time of danger and calamity, its the memorable moment when relationships are built closer and stronger and its what you called LIFE."