Dream Guy



When everyone is crushing on the same heartthrob, it's easy to get carried away and like him too....But always remember that your dream guy is as unique and special as you are.

The guy who'll get your heart racing or have you laughing out loud will likely be different from your friend, cousin or sister's dream guy----and that's how it's supposed to be!..


I hope this article will help you get started building your dream guy profile......Happy Hunting!!!!!! kisses:)

Love  Philosophy

Want to be wise in the way's of love? Here are 25 rules to remember when u find yourself falling....

1. Love Yourself First:
                                    It's simple math: if u don't have enough love for yourself, u can't possibly have any to share. As Buddha say's, "You , you yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Learn to love yourself first--and then you can read the rest of these rules..

2. You Get What You Give.
                                           Karma comes back around. Do unto others what you want others to do unto you. Say it how you want, but it was The Beatles who best put to words the second most important rule of love: "And in the end, the love you take is equal to love you make."

3. Show Him You're Interest:
                                             Boy's aren't always observant or brave. While you don't need to throw yourself at him, a smile or a sincere compliment may give him the courage to (finally!) ask you out.

4.Dont Be Afraid to Jump then Fall:
                                                       sing's Taylor Swift. Live a little! In life and especially in love, You've got to take a few risk to make things happen.

5.It's ok to Say "NO":
                                 He might be the guy You've been crushing on forever, but if he asks you to do something you're not comfortable with---whether it's during your first date or your third anniversary--you have to be able to say, "That's enough." Don't compromise yourself . He'll respect you if you show that you respect yourself.

6.His Boundaries matter, too:
                                              Respect goes both ways. For instance, if he says he's not ready to meet your folks, give him time. Pressuring each other only leads to regret in long run..

7. Manners Matter Especially on First Date:
                                                                    Do be polite, ask open-ended questions about his interests, dress appropriately, and smile! Don't brag, talk about money, or over-share(exes are never a proper subject over dinner).

8. The World Will Not End if He Doesn't Like You Back. And You Will Get Over Him. Promise...!

9. Love For The Right Reason's, or Not At All:
                                                                        Ask yourself: do you really love this person , or are you just feeling left out because all your friends are in realtionships? Is showing him off more important to you than spending time alone with him? Love others for the same reason you want to be loved--just because you're you....

10. Communicate:
                             and we don't just mean talk. The secret to succeeding in love (and also to avoiding war) is to listen, and not just to what you want to hear, but to what the other person is really saying.

11. Compliments Work:
                                     Trust us: guys love to hear that they're good-looking,talented,smart, and sexy as much as girls do. Make him feel good about himself once in a while, and he's more than likely to return the favor.

12: Actions Speak Louder Than Words:
                                                              You can't always expect him to declare your beauty to the world in Shakespearean verse--most guys find it hard to say how they feel about a girl. But his behavior should tell you that he thinks you're amazing: he smiles when he sees you, he puts your needs first, and he;s always polite. Positive actions are always better than empty words.

13. We Make Each Other Laugh:
                                                   say's Reese Witherspoon when asked what makes her relationship work. When you can share laughter with someone, you can share almost anything else.

14. Love With All Your Heart, But Don't Lose Your Head:
                                                                                          Be generous with the love you show, but hold on to who you are. Acting without thought makes you a slave to your feelings.

15: There's no Such Thing as "The Perfect Guy":
                                                                             only guys who do their best to make you happy. Those are the one's worth keeping..

16: Don't Change Yourself to Suit His Idea of "The Perfect
      Girl":
              take it from a lady who had to lead a whole country:" I've reached a point in my life where it's no longer necessary to impress. If they like me the way I am, that's good. If they don't, that's too bad"---former President Cory Aquino

17. Love Can Be Tough, But it Can be Worth it:
                                                                          a little wisdom from 1984: " That's why they call them crushes. If they were easy, they'd call them something else". ---Jim Baker, Sixteen Candles..

18. Honesty is Still the Best Policy:
                                                       both in relatioships and in dating. He should like the real you. Actress Mila Kunis says,
"Playing coy is silly. Speak your mind. If he gets turned off, he's the wrong man."

19. Making Sacrifices is a Must:
                                                  you shouldn't give up study time , work or ditch your friends for him, but you should also make time for him. Spending one afternoon playing NBA 2K11 with him instead of watching the whole first season of The Vampire Diaries for the third time will be worth it when he realizes (all over again) that you really are " The Best Girlfriend Ever".

20. Learn to Forgive:
                                 yes, boys can be insensitive, hurtful, and stupid, and sometimes they do deserve the silent treatment. But we girls aren't perfect either, and rejecting a sincere apology is prideful and pretty. Let him make it up to you. He's much better company than a grudge, after all.

21. "Couple Things" are Cool:
                                               it's important that you find things you enjoy doing together. Love thrives in shared experiences, whether it's cooking, watching favorite TV program, playing sports, going to a special restaurant, going to concerts, or all of the above.

22. When It's your Fault, Say Sorry and Mean it:
                                                                            self-respect doesn't mean putting yourself above everyone else. Be humble enough to accept your mistakes and apologize for them.

23. Love Is Not Equivalent to Stalking:
                                                            you do not need to know where he is, whom he's with, and what he's doing at any given minute. That's not love, that's creepy!. Give each other time and space to be your own selves. Having separate experiences is as important as having shared ones, because it means you'll always have something to talk about and reveal to each other.

24. It's About Pulling up, Not Pushing Down:
                                                                       he should be bringing out the best in you, not the worst! Think more along the lines of Fabolous's " You Make Me Better." rather than Eminem and rihanna's "Love The Way You Lie".

25. Have Fun! :
                        Love is amazing feeling. Enjoy every minute of it and be thankful for the experience............................

Call Center Love

Tech Support: Yes, how can I help you?

Customer: Well, after much consideration, I’ve decided to  

                   install Love. Can you guide me through the
                   process?        


Tech Support: Yes. I can help you. Are you ready to

                          proceed?

Customer: Well, I’m not very technical, but I think I’m ready-

                    What do I do first?

Tech Support: The first step is to open y our Heart. Have you

                         located your Heart?

Customer: Yes, but there are several other programs running

                   now.Is it okay to install Love while they are

                               running?

Tech Support: What programs are running ?

Customer: Let’s see, I have Past Hurt, Low Self-Esteem,

                   Grudge and Resentment running right now.

Tech Support: No problem. Love will gradually erase Past

                         Hurt from your current operating system. It 

                         may remain in your permanent memory but

                         it will no longer disrupt other programs. Love

                         will eventually override Low Self-Esteem with  

                         a module of its own called High Self-Esteem.

                         However, you have to completely turn off

                         Grudge and Resentment. Those programs

                         prevent Love from being properly installed.

                         Can you turn those off?

Customer: I don’t know how to turn them off. Can you tell me

                                how?

Tech Support: With pleasure. Go to your start menu and

                          invoke Forgiveness. Do this as many times

                          as necessary until Grudge and Resentment

                          have been completely erased.

 Customer: Okay, done! Love has started installing itself. Is

                                 that normal?

Tech Support: Yes, but remember that you have only the 

                          base program. You need to begin connecting

                          to other Hearts in order to get the upgrades.

Customer: Oops! I have an error message already. It says, ‘

                   Error – Program not run on external components’

                   What should I do?

Tech Support: Don’t worry. It means that the Love program

                          is set up to run on Internal Hearts, but has

                          not yet been run on your Heart.In non-
                          technical terms , it simply means you have to

                          Love yourself before you can Love others.

Customer: So, what should I do?

Tech Support: Pull down Self-Acceptance; then click on the 
                         following files: Forgive-Self; Realize your
                         Worth; and Acknowledge your Limitations.

Customer: Okay, done.

Tech Support: Now, copy them to the ‘My Heart’ directory.  
                         The system will overwrite any conflicting files
                         and begin patching faulty programming. Also, 
                         you need to delete Verbose Self-Criticism
                         from all directories and empty your Recycle   
                         Bin to make sure it is completely gone and
                         never comes back..

Customer: Got it. Hey! My heart is filling up with new files.   
                   Smile is playing on my monitor and Peace and
                   Contentment are copying themselves all over My
                   Heart.. Is this normal?

Tech Support: Sometimes. For others it takes awhile,but  
                          eventually everything gets it at the proper 
                          time. So Love is installed and running. One
                          more thing before we hang up. Love is
                          Freeware. Be sure to give it and its various
                          modules to everyone you meet. They will in
                          turn share it with others and return some cool
                          modules back to you.

Customer: Thank you, God.

God/Tech Support: You’re Welcome, Anytime.

       

My Angel

Mom is the first word that a child says when he/she learns to speak. She remains the center of attention and respect for a child for a long time to come and it's her love and peace in her lap that clings forever to the memory of a child...

When i first opened my eye, i saw an angel ... that was you(mom)... when i first stepped my foot, i was holding my angel's finger... you were always there for me... whether in my happy moment... or had my heart broken.....

Your arms were always open when I needed a hug. Your heart understood when I needed a friend. Your gentle eyes were stern when I needed a lesson. Your strength and love has guided me and gave me wings to fly...Thanks for all the support that you have given to me. Thank you for being such a kind and loving Mother..

I might forget the world, but I can never forget the love you showered on me...I might not know the pains you went through to make us what we are. But, what I know is that we all love you. You care, love and teach. You are protective and supportive. You make me a proud person.

My respect for you is no different than your love for me, without boundaries. You are my crowning support and the best thing that I own..You are not just a mother to me, but you are the best girl friend I have ever had. Daddy is really lucky to find someone like you, 'coz God doesn't make angels like you anymore....

On this beautiful day, when you turn into a 59 year old.....I wanted to say Happy Birthday and I love you. And there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t thank whatever higher power is out there for allowing you to be born because without you there would be no me....

You brought me into this world 26 years ago and showered me with love. You raised me to be the best person possible. You taught me right from wrong. You taught me how to stand on my own two feet. You loved me and believed in me when I didn’t always deserve it. You saw my potential for greatness long before I ever did. And you showed me the only one standing in the way of my dreams is me and my fear. You’ve shown me what hardwork and dedication can accomplish.

And for all of that, I thank you.

I hope the coming year brings a reprieve from all of the back problems you’ve been dealing with. I pray everyday that they get straigtened out so you can go back to the life you were living before because it breaks my heart to see you go through this. But at the same time, I know how incredibly lucky I am to have you because you are showing me just how strong a person can be when they have to. Your strength and resilience awes me, and I just hope that I can live up to the example you’ve set for me.

I love you, mom, and I hope you have a great birthday....May you continue to live a joyful life for all the years to come...


Love always,
Your infuriating mooch of a daughter

Size



Three words to ruin a man's ego........IS IT IN?


Size does not matter at all! I repeat does NOT. I dont think the size of a person or part of a person should even matter. Its not always about whats on the outside.

We often ask our girlfriend/boyfriend..."Will you still love me when I dont have that size?" Huh, of course we will.... No matter what size he/she is, u'll be the same person with the same lovable personality. So people stop bittering urself, coz we will still love u , whatever size it is.....

I dont think the size of your wang has anything to do with how good you are. I think just like any sport you need to be comfortable with your equiptment. And when you are is when you'll truly excel. What is the point of having such and such inches if they dont all go to use. A whole half of your wang serves no purpose at all? How can it do anything for the lady if she never feels it?

I really believe its the motion of the ocean, not the size of the boat. In my limited experiene I've seen both sides of the spectrum. And you could probably guess what? Size didnt make the longer one any better. In fact it was a waste of space, he couldnt work it anywhere near as well as the shorter fellow. Shorter as in wang size not height. I actually prefer head when it's given to a shorter wang also. A guy really has a better chance of getting head when he's smaller.

Women arent so intimidated by the smaller wang. Its probably more pleasurable for the man as well. Again only half of a bigger man is pleasured the other way. To cut this down to not miss out on getting some myself. A woman's size doesnt matter either. One quote sums it up, "More than a handful or mouthful is a waste of time!". Big boobs small boobs, we all have a vagina. If not its not a woman. Therefore the boob size doesnt even matter.

Now onto the part of the blog all you perverts have already seen coming...So i better end it....Well, Im done with this thought. Peace!!!!!!.......

Sweet Morning to All..........kisses:

 If i were a Boy

Since I was little, I had wanted to be a boy for most of my life up till now (26). Although I was a lesbian in personality, I didn't look it at all. I thought of myself as 'handsome' while the world called me pretty, sweet and cute.....

I've had a great life as a girl. Pretty much attracting who I want to attract . I'm committed to being a good person to the other...

Women often encounter gender discrimination (intentional acts of bias against women), women in today's workforce, especially those working in traditionally male-dominated fields, are experiencing a much more camouflaged foe--second generation gender biases that are impeding their advancement and adding stress to their lives...

One common gender-biased dynamic is the way in which leadership tends to be judged in the workplace. "Good" leaders are expected to be strong, confident, and assertive. Yet, when women act strong, confident, and assertive, they're often perceived and judged as uncaring, self-promoting, and aggressive. And when they act in more collaborative ways, they're viewed as not possessing "good" leadership skills. It's a classic double bind.

SO..If i were a boy even just for a day....i swear  to treat a girl like i would want to be treated(when i were a girl),. i would difinitely change the idea of gender discrimintion Hopefully,experiences will serve to shape the workplace into a place where the unique qualities of women will no longer be devalued and punished, but instead will be respected and embraced ...

And yet, women are alot more tolerant of things in general, and I think it would be nice to have the ability to not have to "perform" as much. On the other hand a woman's expectations of herself are alot higher, in general than a man, so it would not be easy in that respect either. Society has created alot of these expectations, and that's unfair in alot of ways. Judging and expecting people based on rather shallow outside cues is limiting for both people. I really think that the best of all worlds would be if we could change our gender at will, so we could decide if we wanted to experience today as a man or a woman. The next best would be to dress, act, be however you want, that day, or any other and not one other person would criticize or judge, (and hold it against you, ever)that expression. they would just accept you completely for how you are expressing yourself that day..

SO at the end of the day...i would still love to be a women, as god made me...





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Freedom of Choice

That is an ammendment right? ...Then why doesnt anyone acknowledge it? Im tired of people telling me where I can and cant go, who I can be with, whether it be friends or other, what to do, and how to live. Give me a break.

Okay it takes two to decide on being with eachother. It takes two to declare a real friendship. And the last time I checked people werent owned. I think that ended with slavery for the most part. So therefore people,  have the freedom of choice.

Let em use it! I can go wherever I want whenever I want. I know it might not be in my best interest, but the whole sheltering me thing is getting old really fast. I understand the consequences of going to certain places, whether they be the never ending gossip arena or a simple dinner.

I dont care! Im tired of walking on eggshells for people that really dont matter to me. Not that I dont like them or care what happens to them, but if something did happen to them I wouldnt be devastated. I know that sounds bad, but its really not. Id feel bad for their family and friends and stuff, but thats about it. So everyone can mind their own business. And at the worst give me suggestions. Thanks. Peace!!!!!..



Say You're  Sorry

Love IS having to say you're sorry!

Because we are in love with someone, does that make us immune from apologizing for our bad behavior or make us exempt from saying I'm sorry when we hurt our lover's feelings or disappoint them with our words and actions?


From time to time things can go awry. People who love each other get angry, yell at each other, and say hurtful things. Sometimes we show our dark side to the people we love. Sometimes when we make fools of ourselves!

When two people love each other they feel comfortable discussing perplexing or challenging problems and are willing to address the tough issues head on. Sometimes they say and do things to each other that are hurtful. But just because they love and trust each other, does it give them carte-blanche license to say and do whatever they want, even if it is damaging or hurtful? Of course not! But the reality is that it happens and the wounds can be deep. Feelings can be hurt. Relationships strained.

Which leads us to our most important point - love IS having to say you're sorry. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. When you engage in behaviors, actions, or words that are hurtful and damaging to your relationship, you must apologize!

This simple notion may very well be one of the great truths of the universe.

Hurt

Right now I feel hurt to the core. . A hatred is boiling in my stomach deeper than I've ever felt in my entire life. I dont even know how to deal with it, because it scares me.

Im hurt, to the very core. I dont think recovery is an option. This might be one of those internal scars one really never gets over.

I wish I could elaborate but I have to go to bed...time check...1:00am....have a sweet mor-night everyone!!!!!!

What is the problem with men? Okay stupid question, let me specify. If all a man thinks about is sex, than why is it so hard to believe that a woman might think about sex half the time too? When you tell your woman "I'm getting some head tonight!" For some silly reason I'm going to prepare myself for some guilt free. Isn't that what any good woman would do? LOL ...peace!!!!!!!!!!

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No such thing as a "good man"...

There is no universal "good man". Now hold your horses, Im not saying all men are asses. Im saying there are only variations of a "good man". The idea of a "good man" changes with every woman. Therefore the idea of a "good man" has several different meanings. Although, some of the traits may overlap between two women's views of this "good man", they are in no way the same. This is the same idea behind a "good woman". When you find your "good man", you have actually found your soulmate. The man that decides he doesnt want football everyday, to one woman. The man who listens, to another. When you find your "good man" you may not be his "good woman". Which is why finding a "good man" doesnt always guarantee you a lifelong relationship. When a man finds his "good woman", and his "good woman" deems him her "good man" is when they have each found "the one"! The one they can spend the rest of their lives with. Many people search their entire lives for that exact situation. The chance of finding the one is very unlikely. That however does not mean you wont find someone to spend the rest of your life with. The little annoyances in each person can be worked out. Pushed aside to let happiness in. You may think you have found the one, but you probably have not(chill, Im young this is probably all squash buckle to you wise bloggers!) If "the one" annoyed you, and never changed the habit that did so, he or she was not "the one".   There is no such thing as perfect, so there is not the perfect match. This is why your love for the person you call "the one" doesnt change. Love is instinct, and attraction. Your heart(which is really controlled be the brain but...) leads you in to that endeavor. The heart overlooks the annoyances and bads in general.   I have always said that love located entirely within the heart will never work. There has to be an intellecutal part of love too, that is run by the brain. The love of the heart is emotional and physical and those two cannot stand on their own when the going gets tough. In these times the love of the brain, continues on when emotions and the physical have either failed, or are not enough. However when all three work together in a harmonious balance, this is what I think is true love. However the fact at hand is there is no perfect match. Therefore there is no "good man" or "good woman". Half the fun in a relationship is the little annoyances, and compromises. Thats all I really can say......

Shoes

Everyone has a fetish. Mine as you may already know is shoes. I have ++++ shoes as of right now. Sounds bad but think of something you like to collect. How much of that do you own? Exactly. The only difference is my fetish/collection gets more use.

Its not like Im going to buy them and admire them forever. Im going to wear them. Case in point today I wore black leather stilettos. I see no problem in having an abundance in shoes. If I collected something else that was completely useless like lint, then people may have a reason for worry.

Shoes, I mean its a stereotypical girl thing. Like boys have cars, girls have shoes. Im making a point to save my shoes. I dont really like feet but I am not bothered by them. My fetish with shoes does not reach within to the feet! So therefore anti-feet people have nothing to complain about because its like saying I like clothes and not like the skin within them, its possible. Peace out!

I Mis Playing In The Rain

I Mis Playing In The Rain

I cannot believe it's 10:30 am and this dark out! Holy cow!

It's raining. A lot. I went out during one of the breaks and found two little kids playing in one of the puddles..

It reminds me of my childhood days......

When i was a little girl i used to play in the rain...run outside as soon as i heard the rain...Back then we lived in country side-rocky road with lots of puddles..

Ahhh yes brings back memories of puddle jumping with the kids, collecting yucky worms and putting them in cans of dirt for fishing, singing and dancing in the rain while running barefoot...pretending we are airplanes, with arms spread wide, going in circles around the yard in the rain, gliding through the drops..

Those where the days before the childhood without video games, no internet, no television, and the worst thing is no electricity...

I used to stay in the window watch those storms for an hour, thunder rumbled and long bolts of lightning pierced in the sky..When the storms stopped, i would run towards the door, jumping off outside and run through the wet grass, splashing all the puddles across the street...Looking at the sky hoping to see the rainbow and whisper all my wishes..

In those rainy days ..was like magic to me.....
Young kids seem to love to play in the rain. It can also be a lot of fun if you're just a kid at heart. Playing in the rain is a great way to lose yourself for an amount of time and forget about all of your cares...

 Alone

Where are u?.............

I keep waiting for you but u never come....

Loneliness is the worst phrase one can go through in life. It eats away at ones diginity and self confidence and is like a cancer that reaches out to every millimeter inside ones self.
Remedies are few, and sometimes so complicated that hope in using them is defeated. Its scary to be alone.

The feeling of not having someone close to share happiness, sorrow, anger and the humdrum things in life makes the tears flow unstoppably..

I'm so afraid of being alone and im wondering if its possible for anybody to love me?....whats wrong with me?...sometimes life just doesnt make any sense..

No one here to wipe my tears in my eyes and hold me tight so no more sorrow, no more cry, no more death, no more pain...but where are u?....sometimes...when i say, "im okay" I want someone to look into my eyes, hug me tight and say..." i know u are not"...

I don't think anyone will ever love me. I'm too much hard work. I don't want to be alone though. I want someone to love and care for me . I try to be open for men to notice me but all I get is big liars .

MAYBE...i just cant trust anyone enough to let them get close to me anymore for fear they will hurt me again as this always seems to be the case in my life..i always put everything into a relationship only to end up having it thrown back in my face and being really badly hurt ...so now i am in a really dark place where i am completely alone and crushed....

I really hope Mr. Right comes along someday...

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially.....................





Men born this way......


Men are not all liars and women do not have a monopoly on the truth. We all lie at some time or other..

Let’s be honest, everybody lies men and women, I think we just have to look at the reasons behind the lie, who it impacts, who it hurts...


But...guy's  before you tell a lie, consider woman feelings.......don't stricken your nerve if u've been accused of lying and wrong doing by a woman.....u must look at the mirror and ask yourself..."am i a dreadful liar or not?"

Peace out!!!

He's a Flirt



Dont hate the player, hate the game...

Every girl ,everywhere , can be a target of his flirting...

Men have certain ways they flirt,..It's part of men personality...A common form of social interaction whereby one person indicates a romantic or sexual interest towards another..Men flirt because they're men...just like women do...

Men flirting...I see no harm in it...but..Heck, u have a damn girlfriend....oh c'mon....Give me a damn break..Its doesnt make me mad, its just annoying...


But watch out: Flirting  can be dangerous if you don't use common sense. Never go with someone you don't know, no matter how nice or flirty he seemed...

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Talented kid (clark pampanga)..He (Arjohn Gilbert).."Aeta Boy"..sells flutes for a living..

Whenever he sings you can feel that theres a pure talent in him then everytime he finishes singing HE will comeback into reality for being a kid who beg for people to buy his flute,you can see through he's eyes!!! he sings not to be praise but to pls. People.

 Hopefully someday he would stop selling flutes, and start selling albums. =)

Hey, Big Spender!

Bitten by the shopping bug?..Learn to curb your impulse to shop 'till you drop, and work your way to being a smart, savvy spender....

Have u calendared tyhe next mall-wide sale?..Is your closet filled to the rafters, yet you still feel like you have nothing to wear?..We are always lured into purchasing that dainty dress or the next hip gadget, to the point that consumerism seems hardwired into our system.However, others take the "shop 'till you drop" mentality to whole new levels--with huge repercussions..What happens when retail therapy becomes the disorder and not the cure?....

For most teens and young adults, shopping is considered a normal part of their lives..But the frequency of buying in excess should not be taken lightly..Some teens, are into overspending to project or trumpet their social status.."Some continually buy and accumulate things so they can prove or show their status..If you can afford to acquire these branded items, It means you belong to a higher pedestal"..

Shopping can also be teen's way of accepting herself and being accepted by others..Young people are not self-actualized yet, so they focus more on themselves instead of looking after other people's needs..one of their modes of belongingness is comforting to their peers in terms of their possessions, like the clothes they wear or the gadgets they own...

Teens may have benign take on excessive spending because the money they spend came from their parents..Young people feel need to continually buy because they don't  know the implications of earning money yet.. So even if their parents are able to give them their stipend, they dont know the amount of hard work that went behind their allowances..There's that lack of awareness of the effect and hard work needed to earn money..

But the need to belong and the need to maintain a reputation barely scratch the surface..Other shopaholics use their spending spress to compensate for feelings of emptiness..Being a shopaholic is also a form of compensatory behavior to conceal something and to combat anxiety..Excessive spending, such as buying items in multiples, could be reflective of a "lingering, untapped emotional disorder"..

Start it young, start it right:

The perect time to start saving is NOW and that saving is not something teens and young adults should postpone.."the earlier you start saving, the closer you are to meeting your financial goals and achieving your dreams"..Think of saving as delayed gratification..You can choose to spend it now, as small as it is,  but if u save that money for a later date, you will have a greater amount to buy big things..

"Always dream big things for ur future....Save for ur future home , ur own sucessful business, ur dream car, travelling around the world with ur future family, and providing well for them..DREAM AND SAVE........SAVE AND DREAM...:)



The Rule

Rules, rules, rules! Many times they seem unfair, irrational,and downright dictatorial..The problem with trying to fight these rules (or sneaking around them) is that it often leads to unhappy results that affect both you and your family..Does this mean you're doomed to feel constantly trapped and just accept being treated like a kid all throughtout your teenage years? Not necessarily..The good  news is that there are ways to play by your parents' rules and still make your high school and college years enjoyable and unforgettable.. Once you understand the concerns behind these rules, you can definitely make them work for you..

Here are a peek at the top of three rules and concerns inside your parent's mind....:

RULES:

1. The Boyfriend Rule:
                                    Your parents don't want anything as serious as a relationship to distract you from finishing your studies. They also want u help avoid getting pregnant before u are actually ready.. And lets face it--the possibility of you getting pregnant would be much higher if u had a boyfriend..

2. The Going out Rule:
                                    Your parents want to know you won't tire yourself out too much and you'll know how to practice moderation both at work and play..The curfews and conditions they set also help them know you'll be relatively safe while you're out..

3. The Grade-Focused Rule:
                                     Parents usually only implement this rule when they're truly concerned about your grades..In short, it would benefit you to be concerned about it as well..


BUT....we often ask ourself....Why are they so strict?

CONCERNS:

1. Safety and Emergencies:
                                    We don't really plan for accidents or emergencies to happen (which is why they're called "accidents" and "emergencies").,but your parents know they can set certain rules that would make them less likely to happen to you..

2. Priorities and Balance:
                                                          Your parents won't be around forever, so they want to make sure you'll be able to take care of yourself by choosing the things that truly bring value to your life, like a good education, proper values, and productive habits...

3. Worst Case Scenarios:
                                   Your parents have probably heard the horror stories of bad things that have happened to other teens and they can't bear the thought of these things happening to you and ruining your life...

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Any interaction with your parents is always an opportunity to practice being more mature in the way you think, speak, and make decisions..They may not be perfect...no human being is___but that doesn't mean you'll have to reject the good things they want to pass on to you..If we were to sum up the kind of "growing up" your parents would like to see in order to give you more freedom, we could describe it in one question: "Are you becoming responsible enough to predict, plan, and prepare for the possible consequences of any choice you make?" As soon as your parents see that the answer is becoming YES, then it's very likely that they'll soon be letting you set your own rules----and be proud of you for it....:)