Valentines Day Suck's.....Love it or Hate it !!!

It's a "REMINDER"...a big heart shaped blatant reminder to everyone especially men that he needs to make some romantic effort...to force him to shop compulsively for things that they dont need to buy in order to express their love...Most men know that they will be in trouble if they dont buy an expensive present for their women...I've witnessed women cry at their lack of gifts, or have a full of tantrum because the flowers delivered to the office weren't what thy expected...Valentines day isn't about you guys buy or do...Oh no, it's about how much jealousy it provokes in others...weeehh!!...Seriously, not just that but i see my single friends, those who by choice or force are alone and i feel sorry on them on valentines day...Not because they are single, Oh no! I feel sorry because all the ones who are in couples make them feel as if they were missing something just because they get a silly card , box of chocolates and boasting about their enormous bouquet of flowers...

Please do not take me wrong, I am a romantic person and still looking for my happy ever after...I believe in love...But i hate to see how valentines day has become another commercial festivity...I am not against genuine demonstration of love on valentines day, what i am against is simple consumerism to disguise the lack of love...Why MUST we celebrate love one day a year?..why not celebrate love everytime we can?...in my ideal world, i would like to be romanced every single day of the year...i would like to feel loved and needed everyday, not just one silly day in the calendar...I dont need a special day or occasion to tell my boy that i love him, that i am head over heels about him...I dont need someone to remind me in the calendar that it is time to send him a loving card or message...He doesn't need a day marked in the calendar to make me special...


So, guy's --off the hook of failing the utopian 14th febuary task...You got 365 days to sweep off your love ones feet with love and romance...


YES, valentines day may suck's, but whatever story you may have..,loving someone and be loved is still the best feeling you'll ever get...So HAPPY HEARTS DAY, sucker!!! Peace...lots of love..mwah

Brainy Geeks



Let me tell you something, but promise not to judge, okay?..haha..I'm a total sucker for smart boys..In school, it was always the brainy geeks who caught my eye..In college, I would find myself staring at the most articulate guy in class with such unabashed admiration whenever he recited..Making goo-goo eyes at a boy is bad enough, but when he's the scrawniest and least attractive pipsqueak in the room, it gets kind of embarrasing..

I grew up worshipping the idea of being traditionally smart..It was all about grades and books and getting into the best university..But after college, I quickly realized that most of life's biggest choices, such as what passion to pursue, or which guy to give your heart to, couldn't be made just by being book-smart..I had to be life-smart as well..A life-smart girl uses her head and her heart..Think about it for a minute...The most rewarding and fulfilling experiences always involve using both your head and heart..It's not about using your head today, switching off your heart, and then doing the reverse tomorrow..It's about combining the power of both...

Just picture yourself for a moment doing something you love, something you truly care about, whether it's baking goodies that put smiles on people's faces, or being an awesome volleyball player, or crafting a cool accessory no one else has..Ever notice how you instinctively know exactly what to do? And when you don't, you're more than willing to learn how?..Thats the head-smart and heart-smart YOU at work, right there!!! If you spend time trying to figure out what makes you happy, and you're willing to put in extra work and learn more, you can achieve anything you want, I promise..Just remember...We are all smart, in our own way..!!!

" Failure reveals and builds character, ultimately helping you become the best version of yourself...Its about going after your dreams, doing what you love and cherishing every moment.."

Say You're Sorry

Pride should never get in the way, especially if you know you're in the wrong..It can take a lot of guts to admit you made a mistake and to tell the person you've hurt that you're sorry but the fact that this task is incredibly difficult only means it's something that should be learned..It may take some time: it may take a long pre-sorry speech to actually lead up to it: it may take a handwritten note or text, but whichever avenue you choose to take, all that matters is that you learn to swallow your pride and apologize, before it's too late....

Sweet Morning Everyone...!!!

Fighting Fair

When it comes to keeping a relationship healthy and happy, how you argue is as important as what you argue about..

*Fight for the right reasons..Go into it because you want to fix the problem and never because you want to get even..

Stick to the present..Keep your arguments relevant to the current problem..Bringing up old "sins" will only cloud the issue and make things worse...

Be civil..There's never an excuse for name-calling, violence, or any kind of abuse.Respect and control are key..

Take your share of responsibility..Listen to and apologize for any mistakes on your part that other person may point out, and be ready to accept his/her apology as well..

Keep it private..There's nothing less classy or less productive than bickering in public, whether it's a shouting match inside your house or a status message war on Facebook..Contain yourself until you can talk privately..

Compromise..Don't expect to get your way entirely..It's not about who "wins" or "loses"..The victory is when you come out of your argument with a deeper bond than before...:)

Fight to the FINISH

Here's a riddle for you: What's one thing you hate doing, yet can't help but do?..The answer: FIGHT!...No matter how much you love a person, sometimes he/she just makes you wnat to scream...But just because you argue with someone doesn't mean you can't have a meaningful relationship with him or her..Fights are a way of expressing frustration and insecurity, and when handled properly they can help a relationship grow deeper..Here are a few familiar tales on fighting plus tips to keep them under control...

A Tale of Two Sister

 You share everything including parents, but the rule with borrowing stuff has always been to ask permission first..Now little sis has admitted not only to taking your favorite skirt without consent, but also to spillinh soda on it--and you're too furious to listen to her apologies..

One thing you should remember about family is that unlike friends, you're stuck with them forever--for better or for worse..Give yourself time to cool down, then hear her out..Make it clear that what she did is not okay by reversing the situation: how would she feel if you did the same to her stuff?..You'll both be better off treating the experience as a lesson in forgiveness and respect..

The Protective Parent Trap



They refuse to let you go out, and when they do, you have to be home before midnight..Any argument is met with disapproval or the old defense, " Will Mom and Dad ever see reason outside of open rebellion?

Before you gear up for war, consider your options: either you go rogue and be punished further when you get caught, or you toil your way to a promotion..Be smart about this! Stomping off in a huff will only convince them that you're not mature enough to do things on your own..But being home on time, getting good grades, and generally following their rules will learn their trust and get that curfew lifted without any bloodshed...

The Time Conundrum

Now that You're officially a couple, its like your boyfriend has decided he can pretty much ignore you..Every time you want to spend time with him, He's got basketball, video games, or other plans with his friends..You've argued about it so often that your good intentions have backfired--he's beginning to think you're a nag..

With guy's, its always best to act before you speak..Rather than treating his buddies as the enemy, cheer for them at pick-up games, give Call of Duty:Modern Warfare a go, and just befriend them..Convince your guy that he doesn't have to choose between you and his friends; in fact, you're cool enough to be part of the group..He'll want you all to himself once he sees his friends are all in love wiht you....

" HOME "

For the past 3 years I have plenty of things to be thankful aside from being grateful that I am still alive and enjoying everything life's to offer..However, i felt very alone with my thought of missing my hometown especially my parents..Its been more than 3 years since i left my hometown in Iloilo...If my memory serves me correctly, the last time I was home was december 2008..

One of my friend shared this photo of my hometown..This picture   (a peaceful place ) brought back a lovely childhood memory to me when i saw it...

 "There’s no place like home." Where were grew up will always be a part of us and will always give that nostalgic feeling....

To my lovely Parents, whom i missed so much.... You were the first people (in the world!) to love me----even before i was born..You've taken care of me, seen me grow up, and been there for me no matter how many fights, arguments, and silly debates you've had with me...

Mom and Dad.."I Love You"...

Sometimes, its ironic that the people you love are the hardest to actually say these three words to...But people, get a load off your chest and let your parents know that you actually care..You dont need a major moment to say it---you could casually drop the line after a short phone call with them, say it after hearing mass, or tell them on their birthdays..It doesn't really matter what the occasion is---Your saying "I Love You" will deifnitely make their day, no matter what the circumstances are

To my peaceful Hometown (Iloilo), Thinking back of my childhood makes me miss you. A place like you, where everyone knows  is far different from where I am residing now. There with you, I was living in a small hut made of bamboo and nipa. Life was so simple yet fulfilling. Everyone in the neighborhood is so accommodating and willing to lend a helping hand.

I miss your green rice fields where I used to play tag and catch dragonflies. The same rice fields where I looked for edible snails during rainy season that Mom used to cooked with taro leaves and coconut milk. I miss your river where I go fishing and Mom washed our blankets sometimes.

I miss my cousins and old friends who were walking with me on our way to school everyday. With our old rubber slippers we go through one kilometer road, unmindful of the scorching heat or heavy rains because on the roadside there were our favorite tamarind and jocote tree where we hide from the boys and eat the fruits.

It’s been more than three years since I last visited you and I miss so much everything about you. I hope someday, I can buy a small piece of your land and build that same old nipa hut where I can spend the last days of my life with my future family and old friends. When that time comes, I want you to welcome me with the smell of dry leaves, cold breeze, peace and tranquility…just like the old times.

I grew up in Barotac Viejo, a small town in Iloilo, the home of famous "Dinagyang Festival"---is a religious and cultural festival in Iloilo City, Philippines held on the fourth Sunday of January..It is held both to honor the Santo Niño and to celebrate the arrival on Panay of Malay settlers and the subsequent selling of the island to them by the Atis.

My hometown is just beautiful....!!!!..."There’s no place like home indeed."

Singleness

Singleness is not a disease, it is not a form of punishment from an angry God...It is not a purgative stage either...First, be thankful for your singleness...

Single life has many advantages!!...Single people are free to do many things that married people cannot...They are free to give anything, to serve anytime, to go anywhere, to spend their money for a good cause without worrying about anybody else..These are some of the freedom and advantages of being single..

Of course, it is great to be married..When you come home, your wife/husband is there to welcome you..Understands and comfort when you need it..Joy of children..And there is the sexual intimacy that married people can experience..Nevertheless, the advantages of the married life do not cancel out the advantages of the single life..If God calls you to a particular state of life, whether for the time being, or for the rest of your life, rejoice in where God has called you to be, for that is the best place to be!!...

It is common among single people to feel sorry for themselves..But single people should take on a new way of thinking..Be thankful....Congratulate yourself that you have persevered and preserved yourself..You may be tempted to view not being in a romantic relationship as a disadvantage,. But it may also tell of something good..At least you are not in a relationship just for the sake of loneliness, the feeling of togetherness or the desire for companionship..Getting into a relationship is about more than these...It is about a union of heart, mind and spirit: oneness is the ideal for any relationship..If we get into a relationship for the wrong reasons, we will only end up suffering the ill effects..It will feel like a burdensome yoke rather than a blessing..

Thank God for where you are now.!!..Submit to God's perfect timing bacause He loves you and knows what He's doing in your life....

A Day i'll Never Forget

After a few days of being absent in the blogging world doesn't mean i've abandoned my writing..I've been very busy and lot of things happened to me this past few days. I’ve been fulfilled, happy and been hurt..

Although of busy schedule, and my sincere apologies for posting it just now, A Day i'll never forget, It’s not something one easily forgets, nor should forget, especially when whole country celebrating this one special day for our beloved and dedicated Teachers who play a pivotal role in our life starting from childhood to adulthood..Thank you for being my friend, a guide, and a mentor..

Last october 5, as we celebrate the World Teachers Day, is a facts reminder to everyone that we must understand the importance of teachers in our life, love and respect them..With the dawn of the internet age, student think that they get all the information from internet while they ignore the fact that such information may be incorrect or misleading. With this abundant information they think that teachers are not required anymore. But they do not realize that a teacher is not only a person who gives information but also is a mentor and a counsellor to us.

BUT, this day is also a facts reminder to all the Teachers that you must also understand the purity in your profession...
Teacher should not treat their teaching service just as any another job. Teaching subjects alone would not be the duty of a teacher. In today's world Information can be obtained easily by anybody; most of the information is available in internet. It is imperative that teachers should be up to date with knowledge and information. However you should be wise enough to deal with today's generation.You should understand their needs, make the students realize the importance of teachers; be their friend and a mentor. The children today face different problems personally, psychologically and physically. Being rational, straightforward, firm and kind would help gain their trust. Blind obedience is impossible nowadays and teachers should refrain from expecting the same from students. Teachers should also be aware of the mental health problems in children . You should also be aware of child abuse. You need to identify, help and understand the children regarding these problems. Their role has increased manifold with current generation. It is ur duty to increase their importance and appreciate them.In today's scenario with both parents working, the students mostly spend maximum time with their teachers. Therefore it becomes the responsibility of teachers to instill good moral values in students from their childhood.

Many studies indicate that the student teacher relationship is declining . Before, when education was considered as sacred and not as a business, students as well as parents had immense faith and respect for teachers. But now this has gravely reduced. It is because today's students view teaching as a job for which they pay in the form of fees. Education has become a medium for securing good jobs but not knowledge or well being of an individual. Being in a business world where money plays very important role today's students do not understand the sanctity of teaching profession...

Teaching is a vocation rather than a profession..They dedicated their lifes to make us well equipped to face the life with courage, shape our aims, dreams and goals..They act as the guide for life, show the path towards success and enrich the personality of their disciples by imparting ethical and academic knowledge. They bring out the untamed talents of their students and sharpen it in order to bring out the best results..They are considered as our ladders who help us to climb great heights..However they remain as ladders till the last.

NOW, on World Teachers Day, let us remember our teachers ,appreciate their work.Let teachers realize the importance and sanctity of their service. As we go into future let us not forget the basics of life such as morality, wisdom, knowledge, humility and goodness. It is the duty of the teachers to instill all these traits in coming generations. Most importantly parents need to help their children to understand the importance of teachers in their life with some real life examples of their own .Only when students have a great respect and regard for teachers, they can accept advice and discipline from them. Let each and every one of us remember to respect and appreciate teachers on this Teachers Day.

My heartfelt gratitude to all my teachers in "Saint Geronimo Elementary School", "Btac. Viejo National High School", and "Western Institute of Technology- Computer Engineering Dept." and "Philippines Women University" for guiding me, being my mentor, sharpen my knowledge, especially for bringing out the BEST n me...

"The best teachers teach from the heart, not from the book."

 "Happy World Teachers Day"

Typhoon Aftermath

( A week of Disaster ) 

　

PHILIPPINES – Back-to-back typhoons left at least 55 people dead , 31 others were missing and and thousands made homeless after two Typhoons hit the philippines in a week..

A typhoon named Nalgae slammed ashore in northeastern province of philippines last Saturday, left at least three people dead..Nalgae made landfall in the eastern province of Isabela last Saturday. At its strongest it was packing winds of up to 195km/h (121mph)...

Filipino villagers wade in floodwaters as typhoon Nalgae heavy downpour in flooded northern part of Philippines ..

 Thousands were reportedly trapped on the roofs of their homes as Nalgae barrelled across the island.

While..deadly Typhoon Pedring (international code name Nesat)  killed 52 people, thousands made homeless and 31 other missing in the same region ..Typhoon Nesat/Pedring, which struck five days earlier Typhoon Nalgae blew out of the Philippines..

Pedring, which had a diameter of 650km (400 miles) and carried gusts of up to 170km/h (105 mph), made landfall just before dawn...

 The waters of Manila Bay overflowed onto Roxas Boulevard, flooding streets and parks,

Large portions of the capital Manila, a city of 13 million, were without power ,Government offices, and schools were also closed ..the storm signal intensified... Stronger wind struck the land.. Greater rain falls flooded majority of the area in Metro Manila..

The worst things: no electricity (full blackout), no telephone line, no MRT/LRT operation, flooded areas, and shocking wind blows...

Cargo ship washed ashore at the sea port, north of  Manila

 Sofitel hotel in the area was partly flooded, with buses brought in to move guests..

Typhoon Pedring/Nesat is the second big typhoon to devastate the region north of Manila last Monday, September 26, 2011 seemed like another "Ondoy" a very strong typhoon which hit the country two years ago.. And did you know that the date September 26 when Pedring strike is actually the very same date that Ondoy hit...Yes, it was September 26, 2009 when Ondoy devastated the country! Now exactly two years ago, here comes Pedring!!!

I know the experience of struggling in the typhoon..I was also one of the victim..I can never forget the day when Tropical Storm Ondoy came destructive on my way home.I will put this one of my memorable memories of getting stranded on my way home while the tides have risen on the road ahead. The date was September 26, 2009  it was exactly 3:00pm in the afternoon when our VP decided let us go home earlier than the usual 5:00 PM schedule ..

I need to hike for a jeepney ride to the tricycle station that brings me home whenever I go home late. Then  bad news came, they said that there are no jeepneys traveling to that route at this time because  the water is way to high..Thank god there was a bus that bound to mall and decided to drop there and see if the water is lower. I was thinking I have a photographic memory when I arrived near the mall it was a nightmare the water was 2 feet deep when I got off the bus. I took my shoes off put my cellphone in my bag and I walk barefoot to higher grounds at the mall...

I stayed at the vicinity of the mall waiting for the water to recede. I wanted to go home so badly because I have a slight fever and wanted to rest..So, i decided to to walk on a full flooded road..I was a bit hesitant because I walk on the same spot wherein a man got electrocuted and died. So on my way home each step badly hurts my foot because I was walking barefoot and there are sharp rocks along the way.

Then came the heavy rain, I was holding my umbrella as I walk and holding by things up high to keep it way from the touching the murky waters... At last I saw the entrance to my apartment and hurriedly way towards the entrance, but the worst thing is, i have to walk up from lobby to 15TH floor since no elevator because of brownout/no electricity.., was running up to the stairs ,freezing cold, saw my unit and hurriedly open the door ,get inside and took a shower. The water that covered my path on my way up to 15th floor  smells bad, it was filthy but thank god I got home safe.. Just like usual, every typhoon will bring its mad and bad memories..

Philippine President Benigno Aquino III ,says, "it's a fact of life" that the country is visited by 23 typhoons every year on average.
He's confident that disaster management authorities in his country are adequately responding to flooding from a typhoon that has submerged entire sections of metropolitan Manila.

Now all things return to normal! We are still thankful that Nalgae and Pedring(nesat) didn't hit us as strong as Ondoy did! All of us were safe and sound! Atleast!!!

"During the time of danger and calamity, its the memorable moment when relationships are built closer and stronger and its what you called LIFE."

God made YOU.....then he made ME...then HE whispered meant to be.....

Don’t rush things. Because somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you." You can never be perfect… the person you love can never be perfect too… but both of you can be perfect through love and prayers, and your love can be perfect through the both of you. But, no relationship is complete without God. That’s why we have marriage. It’s a bond not only between you and your loved one… but also with God.

Our relationships fail not because (s)he’s not the right person. It’s because we expected too much and we decided on our own. Let God do the work… you may call it waiting time… but while you are waiting… pray. Let God guide you always… He knows better. No, He knows best. Love is not what you think it is….

Sometimes we mistakenly feel that our first relationship will be our last. Because we are overwhelmed with joy and romance, we forget to learn the meaning of true love. Some are saying that love is unselfish, blind, unconditional or simply denying oneself for the sake of someone very important in our life. Others are saying love is immortal and can never be defined.

When we think we’re in love the first thing we almost wanted the whole world to know is that our love for someone very special can never be taken away from us. We say this phrase: "You are the most wonderful gift from GOD I have ever received." After a terrible fight or sometimes even a petty quarrel we then say "You are the biggest mistake I’ve ever made for my entire life!!!". Now, how do you say and spell the word L-O-V-E? Are you really deeply into it?

Nobody can tell what love really is until experience speaks and whispers right into our ears. Most of the time, these love promises "Forever, Till Death do us apart, etc." would end up "Never" and "We should part ways, I’m no longer happy with you! My love for you is DEAD!!!" Many times we thought after having committed to someone and your trust too drops down to zero degree.

"S/He ain’t the right one. I should probably wait for the right one to come." But the big question anyone could not answer is "Is she/he the right one?" "When is the right time?" That made us stick to whom we are with. Will you always be waiting for the right person to come and the right time to commit? A big YES is the answer. Don’t be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it. Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are and what you really want in a relationship.

You’re right, There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there’s a compatible partnership that goes along with it. If you already knew that you’re too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don’t give it a try. You’ll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don’t go deeper into it. You’ll just suffer the consequences and live like hell the rest of your life. It’s really hard to say goodbye though, but you can’t make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings. Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest. Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention.Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself.

More frequently than not, we all act in a hypocritical manner for some reason. We call it love when we can’t leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it’s just pity. We call it love when we’re too attached and think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we’re too much dependent on them. We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, it’s just insecurity. But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that love isn’t something you can buy nor beg. It is real and existing. You can’t touch it but you can feel it in your heart. You can’t find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come. It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don’t forget that it also can make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy...

The Confidence Commandments

Be the queen of confidence every day..It's so much easier than you think!....

1. Thou shall face your imperfections with a smile..
                                                                                  Nobody---not even those celebrities you see on tv, with their glossy hair and porcelain skin---is perfect..Embrace your title flaws because the things you don't like about yourself are often the things that make you quirky and unique...

2. Thou shall learn how to accept compliments...
                                                                            Stop downplaying compliments with false humility! A sincere compliment is a wonderful gift; don't brush it off or take it for granted..Instead, train yourself to take them graciously, and never forget to smile and say thank you..

3. Thou shall dress fashionably even on your heavy days...
                                                                                             Don't let your moody days stop you from wearing that gorgeous eyelet skirt, or that sheer dress that's guaranteed to turn heads..A stylish girl never lets anything get in the way of looking fabulous!...

4. Thou shall keep that shine on your face...
                                                                  A true confidence Queen knows how to get back to basics. She doesn't bury her pretty face under heavy layers of makeup; instead, she treats her skin what it deserves, and let her natural beauty shine through..

5. Thou shall take care of yourself..
                                                        A big part of being confident is facing the world armed with proper hygiene and good grooming every single day.. Never scrimp on the amount of time and effort you devote to keeping yourself clean and fresh....


Sweet Cold Morning Everyone...!!!!!!...~kisses~

See that girl?...yeah..she's the one who fought for you, the one that missed you and loved you, but by the time you realize that she's the girl you want, she'll already be with the guy who figured it out....

Love Hurts

Did you ever love someone so much, you thought you’d die. You sit home alone all night, and just cry cry and cry. He looks at you but sees nothing. You look at him and yes, you see your world, your hopes, your dreams in a place inside his chest. You tear yourself apart inside, searching for reason to care. He doesn’t care about you. Loving him gets you nowhere. This time you got to learn, to say goodbye to him. He couldn’t care less about you, so neither should you. In short learn to say goodbye love should not hurt. Love does hurt especially if you have been ignored by the  person that you felt was your life. It hurts the most especially when you put all your time and effort in order to try to make the other person as happy as they can be and regardless of all that work the one you love is not able to see how much you love them....

At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to stop, leave them alone, walk away..It's not like you're giving up, and it's not like you shouldn't try..It's just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation..What is truly yours would eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be....

Make Him Notice You!

(The Big Reveal Cont.3) 

Being aggresive and forward might get a guy's attention right away, but isn't 100% succesful each time..If you're not confident, cool, and totally comfortable letting him know you're interested straight on, it might be a good idea to start with simple yet effective strategies..Working your charm on the down low can yield positive results with less risk----giving you enough time to build your confidence..In the meantime, get your game on with these easy ways to make him fall for you hook, line, and sinker....


Personality counts a lot, but it won't hurt to keep that initial spark alive by prettifying yourself, no matter what your style is..Caring for your appearance isn't just about looking good---it's about taking care of yourself and liking those unique features that make you who you are..Knowing and acknowledging what's great about you will only make you more appealing to others!..

Get comfy.Donning a body-con dress in front of your crush may seem like good idea in theory, but imagine a full night of sucking in your tummy when you'd rather be in t-shirt and jeans. You'll be ill at ease in front of him and so self-conscious, he won't know what's gotten into you..Strike a balance between fashion and comfort and let your natural self shine..

You want to be comfortable without looking like a slob..Putting extra effort into your look will show him you're interested enough to look presentable and pretty....and you aren't relying on outrageous, inappropriately sexy attire just to catch his attention..

Smile..Your heart might be racing and every word that comes out of your mouth might seem dumb----but there's no need to worry about being awkward because all of that can be saved by the power of a smile!.A smile lets your guy know that you're confident, happy, and enjoying his company..It's also the quickest way to let him know you're interested..

There's no way you're going to get any progress wiht your guy if you're too shy to speak up..Message him online, text him,give him a random phone call, or chat him up in person---even small talk can work wonders..Conversation is a great way to offer him a sneak peek into your already fab personality..Talk smart and you'll reel him in soon enough..


Compliment him.. Everyone appreciates a compliment, just as long as it's sincere..You don't have to gush about how cute he is to his face(that might just scare him off)--tell him his guitar skills are amazing or that you hear he's great on a skateboard..You're not just making him feel good about himself, you're also clueing him in on the fact that you're also interested in what he's into...

Don't play dumb..Speak your mind, have an opinion. and don't be afraid to disagree with him..You'll come off as the interesting person you really are and he'll know that behind that pretty surface is substantial brainpower..

Stay positive..Nobody likes a downer! It's great when you're comfortable enough with your guy to rant and vent, but if every single thing that comes out of your mouth is unpleasant, it won't paint such a pretty picture of you..You don't have to be upbeat and sunny all the time, but happiness is a lot more infectious than being emo 24/7..

Play up the sense of humor..You don't have to be Tina Fey-funny, but easy breezy conversations that show you don't take yourself or things too seriously can definitely be attractive..Whether it's your talent for telling anecdotes, your knack for making jokes about yourself, or your fun quirks, a sense of humor shows guys you're fun to be around..

Act Smart.. Talking the talk will only matter if you're willing to walk the walk, too..Give more meat to those conversations and use your knack for remembering every details of what you talk about to work for you!..

Live out your passion..If you're into soccer, try out for football varsity and tell him why you think the Azkals are awesome..If you love dance, invite him to that class recital you're part of..Let him see you in your element, doing the thing you love, and if he doesn't think you're awesome after all that, then maybe he's not worth your time..

Follow your radar..Sure, you think the world of your guy, but everyone's got flaws..If he acts like a jerk towards you in any way, call him out on it and show him you're bummed..He'll realize that you're someone he should take seriously, and if he's any good, he'll fell responsible for his actions and want to make it up to you the best way he can..

Flirt accordingly..You'll have to raise the relationship quotient and have him see you not just a friend but as someone he could be in a relationship with..When your gut senses he's teasing you (in a good way), play along and flirt back..It's good to throw your guy a bone every once in a while and subtle and smart flirting can do the trick!.. Try not to come on too strong and toe the line between being someone he'll lump in the friend zone and someone who turns him off by being too forward...

RULE OF THUMB:
                                If you like yourself, chances are that guy you're eyeing will like you too!!!!...

Mahal Kita Kasi

"I hate you, Then I love you...Then I hate you, Then I love you more" ..."Sometimes I love you, sometimes I hate you. But when I hate you, it's because I love you"...

He is the Man in my Life we are friends, but yet we act like more. I am confused:(...But even though he doesn't feel the same way I do . I will Love him anyways.....

                           ***********************

You walked into my Life, you held out your arms....
You promised you would never leave, that you would always be there,
I never knew that I meant so much, that my heart was worth enough to care.

You showed me so many things, I started to dream of you every night,
You melted the coldness in my heart, with the warmth of your light.
I ended up falling for you, how could I not -
You're an Angel in disguise, and every touch from you makes my soul hot.

But then whenever i ask you,
You always told me "it's up to you"
Seems like you doesn't care,
I cannot understand this, the wrong messages you did send.

I am so far, I cannot turn back now, you are my friend,
so what do I do now. I don't know much, except here I am again
in Love with a man who only wants to be my friend.

I'm not sure if this is wrong, then again I don't know what's right,
I will Love You Anyways, even if its a lonely fight...

                 ********* Sweet and Spicy *********
       

Patience is another thing that I'm working on.

I must slow down and control myself. I need to have faith that I will find You, that You will find me. I need to practice self-control.

To be strong, I will keep You in mind.

I will trust that You are out there......


Sweet Morning.......:)...kisses

The Last Resort
"The Big Reveal cont."

Ready to step into a guy's shoes?

It's definitely in the "pull in case of emergency" territory----the kind when the guy is just too dense to get that you like him..It could be that he's never really thought of you in that way..It could also be that you guys are just too close as friends that it's never even crossed his mind..It could even be that he literally has the IQ of a slug---and if that's case, I have to ask, what did you ever see him anyway?..But whatever..When you almost literally have a huge sign hanging around your neck that's broadcasting your feeling's and he's still just too gormless to get it, then it's time to go for broke..

But how to go about it?..Remember, you are NOT declaring your love..You're just saying you like him, and no matter how deeply you feel about it, you have to say it like it's not a big deal..Your declaration needs to have that right balance of both conviction and casualness..Otherwise, it will come off as a bit psycho..

For all dire warnings, guy's can't deny the sexiness of a girl who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to say it ...It's not for everyone to do, but if you think you ought to take that first step, just remember why you ended up liking the guy in the first place: because, out of all tons of guys in the universe, he was the one who ended up making your heart skip..Telling him that you like him should be just as breezy....

How It's Done......?

Say It in Person:  
                            This is the ideal way to do it..In fact, some would say this should be the ONLY way to do it..Try to time it as the natural end to a really, really good convo..(And pray that it's not literally the end.)

It's very personal, it's very heartfelt, it's very immediate..Did i mention that it's also very sweet?..:)

You get to see his reaction in real-time..And trust me: nothing is as soul-crushing as seeing your crush react with bewilderment at your most heartfelt admission..

Say It on Facebook:
                                 And by Facebook, i mean "Facebook chat".There'snothing more pathetic than posting it as a status for everyone to see----except, of course, for posting it as a status for everyone to see...and then tagging him in the post, too...

I advocate casualness when you do the Big Reveal, and you couldn't be more casual than Facebook. Plus, it gives him personal space to process your unexpected news..Trust me: that's important..

Bleached blue background, tiny font, pop-up windows---it"s a little impersonal, isn't it?

Say It Through Text:
                                Text? Couldn't you even try Facetime or something? Unlike a free-flowing conversation, a text message is very abrupt..Unless you've masterfully manipulated the chat thread to lead up to that point, i don't suggest you try it...

You're not laying too much of yourself on the line if you say it through text..No, that was not a type...

Say It Through Twitter:......DON'T.....


( Kisses n Hugs ).......mhuah..!!!!!

The Big Reveal

"You're crushing hard on a guy and you want to tell him how you feel..Here's the lowdown on how you should or shouldn't---do it.."


So you like this guy..And not just in the Facebook way, not just one capital letter, but all-caps: LIKE..He's sweet, kind, intelligent, smells good....and he's actually fun to be around..Thus far, you've texted each other, posted a couple of messages in each other's Walls, had Twitter conversations...and real ones..You've even hung out a few times..With friends, of course, but yeah, there was that one time when it was just the two of you,but you wouldn't call it a date exactly,even if sometimes you wish you could..

To sum up, then: You've developed feelings for this guy__feelings so nice and warm that they threaten to pour out of you in an uncontrollable torrent of giddiness whenever you're around him..You don't know how long you can hold it in___somewhere inside you, dangerously close to the surface, is that urge to tell him how much you like him..Be honest, right?. Follow your heart? Say what you really feel? Isn't that kind of idea that's never a bad one?..

Actually, no..Here's the harsh truth: It's really bad idea..

I have a couple of psycho friends who did that...It didn't end well..It makes you look like you're obsessed!!..And he won't talk to you after..Unless he likes you back...


Yes, there's always that little disclaimer..Everything really just works out for the best....IF he likes you back..But that's a pretty big IF, isn't it?.......Bottom line, it makes you look desperate and easy....

So, would you or wouldn't do it?....

Me?...No and Yes

NO.......I'll give little hints----laugh at his jokes, make myself more available..But never directly say to a guy that i like him....

YES.....It's difinitely in the "pull in case of emergency" territory----i'll explain further in my next blog entry...ehe..:)


Saying "I Like You or I Love You" is a man's job..I'ts not that man are sexist, mind you!!!...They all for woman's equality....We are certainly want you to always be honest with your feelings and not be afraid to express urself...Plus, just for the sake of practicality, there's nothing better for guy's than to let the girl do all the hard work..But in this case : It's guy responsibility and duty,,..its guy honor and privilege to experience one of the freakin' scariest moments in guy's entire life...-----It's the rite of passage that we rightfully demand from you---if you (guy) can prove to us that you're man enough to risk everything and say how you really feel about us, then that means you guy's are serious....

BUT... when can a girl turn the traditional tables around and be the one who takes the first step?....or should we girl ought to take the first step?.....hmmpp...

Sweet Morning Everyone!!!!!!...mhuahhh..kisses:)

to be continue......"step into guy's shoes"...see u!!!!!!!

Love is very important. When you find someone through dating and relating who loves you for "who you are", it is an amazing experience. Similarly, it is rewarding to love someone else "as they are" (or "warts and all" as my grandmother would say). I believe that such a bond is priceless and should be nurtured with great affection. Love is part of our emotions, attachment chemicals in the barin and spirit (for those inclined),

Relationships, however, are an entirely different thing. Relationships are working partnerships. They involve thoughts, reasons, and decisions. They require two (or more) individuals in communication, commitment, and cooperative exchange.

As a result, love (feelings) and relationships (decisions) can have separate rules and expectations. Love, because it is a feeling, can be unconditional. Sometimes, no matter what a partner does, feelings toward them do not change. Relationships, however, are working partnerships. As such, they require conditions, boundaries, limits, and directions to run smoothly.

Therefore, a distinction must be made between "unconditional love"...and "unconditional relationships".

But, isn't love enough?

Now that we have made the distinction between "unconditional love" and "unconditional relationships", it is possible to love someone without limit, yet still have contingencies placed upon continuing a relationship with them. In other words, while you may continue to love a partner "no matter what", you may not choose to be in a relationship with them under all conditions. This distinction is important to understand. But, it doesn't hold for everyone...

There are some individuals that say, "no, love is enough". These individuals decide, as long as they have love, nothing else is necessary. As a result, their relationships become "unconditional" as well. They do not set firm boundaries, contingencies, or limits with their "partner". They make "relationship" decisions based on their feelings of love alone. Sometimes this works out... Other times, however, because no one is actively creating a working "partnership", disaster can strike. Furthermore, because there is an expectation to "accept the partner for who he/she is" at all times, relationships may perpetuate under the worst of conditions.

On the other hand, the distinction between love and relationships is upheld with individuals that say "healthy relationships are necessary too". These individuals love their partners unconditionally, but also set rules that maintain a relationship with them. They use influence, limits, and contingencies to ensure a balanced, equitable exchange in their romantic partnerships. Furthermore, while they may continue to "feel" love unconditionally, they also chose to end unhealthy partnerships when the conditions for them are no longer feasible.

Your task in dating is to select the "right" person...because that may be the only time you have influence over the health of the impending relationship. Once you choose and fall in love, you will then make keeping that love the highest priority. As a result, your relationship will most likely become "unconditional" - and your partner will ultimately be free to behave as he/she chooses without repercussion. So, pick wisely. Find someone who will "do right by you" for all time. Make sure they are upstanding, conscientious, and love you very deeply in return. Otherwise, you may find yourself in a very unhealthy relationship, with little recourse to fix it.

Your task in dating is to learn to set boundaries, limits, and contingencies to maintain a healthy relationship. Your task is to also use your influence in a caring and disciplined manner to create a balanced exchange with your dating partner. Such skills are not exercised to "control" or "manipulate" for selfish gain, but rather to maintain a mutually-beneficial and satisfying partnership. However, because your relationships will be more "conditional", personality differences can continue to be worked through after you pick a partner and fall in love. Unhealthy relationships can be remedied (or, in unfortunate situations dissolved), rather than simply endured. Nevertheless, there are few things more painful in life than choosing to leave an unhealthy relationship with someone you unconditionally love. So, picking someone you can "work with" is still an important idea.

For those who place love above all, there is little distinction between those two concepts. Both their love and their relationships are ultimately unconditional. This merger makes identification and selection of a conscientious partner of the utmost importance.

However, for those who equally value working partnerships with love, there is a wide distinction between the two concepts. Love can be felt unconditionally, while still maintaining conditional requirements for the partnership. This separation allows for more flexibility to both experience love and use influence to create healthy exchanges. For these individuals, a disciplined knowledge of negotiation, boundary-setting, influence, and persuasion can be invaluable...

Sweet Morning.....kisses..:)

"Distance doesn't matter if you really love the person, what matters most is your honesty and trust for that relationship to work out.."

Nowadays, when almost every person has an access to the internet, getting acquainted is less complicates especially for those who are not easy to get on with. You feel safe, comfortable and more relaxed sitting behind a screen than sitting in a bar or cafeteria trying to strike up a friendship or impress some girl or a guy you barely know.

At home you don't need to try to be cool. You can be yourself and think about all the questions and answers before writing them down. That's a good thing because usually we tend to say something before thinking about it.

Chatting online gives you more time to think and not rush with the answers..Also, You can easily find people with the same interests and activities. Just visit some dating sites or forums of the activities you like and search for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests.

However, there is one huge disadvantage of online relationships- you do not know whether the person you're chatting with is really the person that he or she is giving himself/herself for. You don't know whether it is really his or her photo and you can not check your friend's bio. Of course, the best thing about it is that you're already making a conversation, but it's only one side of the story. Try meeting that person for real.

One of my friends thought she was in love, because she had met some guy online. They chatted online for a week for 6-7 hours on a daily basis and then she went to see him. That was a total disaster. Firstly, he was a little different than in photos. Being honest from the very begining is very important and she felt deceived. But that wasn't the worst part. The worst part was that they did not find a topic to talk about. They already knew everything about each other from that week online. All topics were exhausted. My friend left him and returned home with a broken heart.

We arrive at a conclusion that if you really want to know your soulmate, you will have to meet him in the real world, not in the virtual....